Love and Marriage
Life with a junk food junkie and a raw vegan wannabe [emphasis on “wannabe”]. (A recent date night photo. Yes – we are different…and a lot alike.)
The stacks of books I have on parenting and marriage…they give testimony to something. I’m not sure what. Inadequacy? Maybe. Maybe – definitely?
I’ve been thinking a lot about marriage advice lately. There is a lot of good advice out there, but the thing that I keep circling back to is this:
“Solus Christus” – (In Christ alone.)
In Christ alone can our marriage or parenting get better. Identifying 10 steps or 5 languages, they can help, but only so far. We all are as unique as snowflakes, and the problems that emerge when you pair a couple of us together – chock-full of intricate complexities.
I don’t know about you, but my best efforts can often leave me flat on my face.
So when it comes to marriage, the best advice I’ve ever heard is this:
When your pride can’t let go, when you just don’t have the grace, in the middle of an argument – Pray.
Pray together. Pray on your own. Pray any way you can.
Resolving to resolve?
I’m often helpless without his help without bowing down to remember that I am the debtor that has been forgiven much!
Is there a problem that is too big for God?
Dive into his word. Dive into conversation with him. The only answers specific to your unique-snowflake-combo-life are there…from the creator of all things!
Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God.